Who is your best friend?

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We are all very different people. We like different things. Different things upset us. Different things make us cry. That's just the way life goes. We will all have many different people in our lives. Friends, relatives, people we work with, go to school with. So we will know many different kinds of people and be able to get along with them. However, there will be one person that you get on with better than anyone else. That one person who is your best friend. Who you click with better than anyone else. Who understands you. Who you understand. They are the people I want to hear about. The question is.......who is your best friend? I'll start this one off.....

My best friend is probably also the person that irritates me the most. Who knows which buttons to press and how to get a reaction out of me. He knows all my weak spots. He knows how I think. He only needs to hear a few words from me and he knows what kind of mood I'm in and what I'm thinking. He knows what will make me smile. What will make me upset. He cares when I'm upset. He tells me when I am annoying. He doesn't put up with any of my crap.

This wasn't something that happened over night, many hours were put in to build a friendship like this. It wasn't easy. Sometimes I can be really difficult and I don't know why he puts up with me. Though he can actually be a stroppy little madam himself, so I guess it pans out. We didn't click straight away. I am not really sure when it happened. Just one day we was here, at this point. He actually annoyed me at first. I didn't like him much at all. He talked alot, about nothing at all, hehe. I kind of find that sweet now, haha! I think the most important part of our friendship is that we share a similar sense of humour. Generally the same things make us laugh, and we know what to say to make the other laugh. I think that's important.

I also trust him. I don't trust many people, but I know that he wouldn't let me down. If I needed him, he would do what he could to help me. If I had a problem, he would listen to me, and offer advice. If I was really upset, he would try and make it better. I know that he's a good person. He has his faults, but then who doesn't? I can be a horror at times, but he is still here. I can talk to him about anything, just waffle away, and time flies. That truely is a best friend, and I love him for it :).

So JU, who is your best friend?
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
My best friend, number one with a bullet!@ is my wife, outside of my relationship my best friend is Michele, she blogs here once in awhile, Michele my belle is my pet name for her, she is ALWAYS there for me, rain or shine, I am always there for her rain or shine The only bitch I have about michele and I, is we live 3000 miles apart. WE call eachother every day and I mean every day, I call her in the morning, she calls me in the evening. What do we find to talk about? Only GOD knows.


MM
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
This is Michele, Evenn before I read MMs response I knew my answer . My best friend bar none is MM. He has been my best friend for what going on 4 yrs ?? Even before we met each other face to face I considered him my best friend. Not a day goes by without me thinking of him, wondering how he is doing today and sure as shit within minutes of me thinking of him the phone will ring and it is him. We have such a tight connection it is truely amazing. He is always there for me no matter what and I for him. I hate this darn 3,000 mile distance we have with each other but we do manage to see each other at least once a year. It is coming up to my visit with him and his beautiful wife and I cannot wait til i get there.sometimes this distance is painful but knowing that I will see him again is all I need. They may not be able to get rid of me when I come again..
Siege of Centauri
Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
I agree with MM and you.  My best friend is my wife, and she is also the one that can push that button real easy!  Because she is my best friend.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top

My best friend is my son, of 29 years.  You've described perfectly in your blog how our relationship is.

I can count on him when there's nothing else or no one else.

Nuf said!  he's a good kid!

Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Good article Sal!

My best friend and I have steadily drifted apart, which makes me sad as hell, but as much as I try to be caring and understanding, he seems to have gotten more self obsessed than me (And I thought that was impossible) and is only interested in talking about his own problems. So I'm currently best friendless, but anyone interested can apply for this esteemed position.

take care dear

Dyl xx
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
My best friend right now (because I'm not on the married side of things, still kicking it as a single) is my buddy Matt. We've been friends for years, and even as he's gotten to know me better, and know my past he hasn't ever shunned me. We've drifted a bit lately, because of schedules and busy lives (and HIS girlfriend, I must admit) but he's still the best I've got.
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
MM and Michele, I'm really impressed that you two manage to keep your friendship so strong over such a far distance, that shows alot of dedication on both parts!

What do we find to talk about? Only GOD knows.


Haha....I know that feeling. Me and my best friend can talk for hours about absolutely nothing, and I do wonder how we pass the time!

Did you two meet online? I hope you don't mind me asking......

My best friend is my wife, and she is also the one that can push that button real easy!


Ahh yes, these best friends certainly know what makes us tick! Not always a good thing if you are annoyed with each other!

I can count on him when there's nothing else or no one else.


He sounds like an angel! You did a good job with him hun

Hey Dyl, it's so nice to see you! I'm guessing that you are talking about Holden? I was wondering, because I haven't heard you mention him for a while. You two seemed to have a really tight bond, maybe you both just need a little break and things will be better soon. I would apply for the position, but I am extremely annoying and I couldn't put you through that, hehe! Take care chick x

even as he's gotten to know me better, and know my past he hasn't ever shunned me


That's what best friends are for! They accept you just the way you are, and wouldn't have you any other way!

We've drifted a bit lately, because of schedules and busy lives (and HIS girlfriend, I must admit) but he's still the best I've got.


I'm sure things will get better, new love interests and stuff can distract us for a while, but friends last forever!
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Sally yes we did actually start becoming best friends online before we actually met face to face. thank God for airplanes lol
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hello All, My best friend, as others her, is my wife. We are about to celebrate 25 years of marriage and have very different points of view on many things, but we care about each other deeply and have learned together that it is the heart rather than the head that rules. Be well.
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
we did actually start becoming best friends online before we actually met face to face. thank God for airplanes


Wow that takes hard work on both your parts. You must have a real connection!

We are about to celebrate 25 years of marriage and have very different points of view on many things


Wow 25 years, that's impressive! Well done. Different points of view can be fun. It's what keeps things interesting.

Thanks for sharing all xxx
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
I am married and my husband is def NOT my best friend.

A best friend to me is someone I can talk too while getting our hair cut, or manicures. A gal pal who likes the same things I do, and likes to laugh a lot. But mostly SHE is someone who has been through life as a woman...something my husband could never "get." No more than I can "get" being a man.

My husband is my friend, and I'd rather spend time with him than with anyone else (including my best gal pal). But when I want to chat about my period, or how the kids are driving me nuts, or makeup, or that new lady on the street who lets her kids ride their dirt bikes on the pavement, whatever...I go to my best gal pal. My husband would listen, but that's about it. He wouldn't be "living" it. If that makes sense.
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
I agree with Tova. My wife is more than my bestfriend so I don't put her in that category (those of you familiar with the Jewish idea of bashert will understand).

If I had to pick, my best friend is my fellow writer Johnny MasudaLink. Met him in grad school back in the late 1980's and he's always been as close as a brother. So, I salute you Johnny Masuda. Also, buy his book Link
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
My best friend looks back at me out of the mirror when I comb my hair.
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
My best friend looks back at me out of the mirror when I comb my hair


LOL

Might be hard to get an objective opinion about the new cut though. Or in your case the scoop on long and bearded.
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
Objectivity is highly over rated.
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
My husband is my friend, and I'd rather spend time with him than with anyone else (including my best gal pal). But when I want to chat about my period, or how the kids are driving me nuts, or makeup, or that new lady on the street who lets her kids ride their dirt bikes on the pavement, whatever...I go to my best gal pal.


I do understand where you are coming from. My best friend is male. I do have a female best friend to though. It is different though. I don't really know how to explain it. He just understands me that bit better, and I can talk to him in a different way. Though there are times when I want a good gossip, and there are things he just wouldn't understand. I guess I have the best of both worlds!

My wife is more than my bestfriend so I don't put her in that category


Awww that's lovely!

My best friend looks back at me out of the mirror when I comb my hair.


Haha....that person is also my worse enemy at times
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top

My best friend looks back at me out of the mirror when I comb my hair.


Haha....that person is also my worse enemy at times

That gets an insightful!

Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
That gets an insightful!


Aww thanks! I'm sure we can all relate to that one!
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'd have to go with the flow and say my wife is also my best friend. We've been married for four years but knew each other for about 20 prior to that, so I guess you could say there is not too much we don't know about each other. We do know how to push each other's buttons but generally don't because I think we both really respect our relationship and rather than spend the time we have together antagonising each other, we laugh and talk and have fun.

Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
We've been married for four years but knew each other for about 20 prior to that


Wow that's a long time, so it's something that just blossomed, or did it just hit you one day?

We do know how to push each other's buttons but generally don't because I think we both really respect our relationship and rather than spend the time we have together antagonising each other, we laugh and talk and have fun.


I think I'm strange, in some way I kind of enjoyed being antagonised, haha! There's a strange little insight into my world! Talking and laughing is also good fun though, hehe!
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
Truthfully, I married my best friend. I know that not only am I not an easy person to get along with, but in fact, an incredibly DIFFICULT one! (Take my opinions on JU, stretch them out 24/7 and, well, you get the picture). I admire the hell out of anyone who can put up with me "live and uncensored" for a considerable length of time, let alone 13 years!
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top
number one with a bullet!


shotgun wedding?

(sorry, couldn't resist!)
Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top
I admire the hell out of anyone who can put up with me "live and uncensored" for a considerable length of time, let alone 13 years!


Hehe, that's because you're such a nice guy gid . Where would the fun be if you was easy all the time?

shotgun wedding?


Ha...someone had to say it!
Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top
so it's something that just blossomed, or did it just hit you one day?


It was a long, drawn out story of two shy people who 'liked' each other but didn't do anything about it, mainly because we were usually with other people. Eventually, when we finally had our first date, we got our stuff sorted. We got married 10 months later.

I kind of enjoyed being antagonised, haha! There's a strange little insight into my world


Well, I can't say I like it, although it can lead to insights in how I think and react. I would far rather a peaceful, adult discussion or even a controlled argument than pure antagonism. But that is just me.
Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top
It was a long, drawn out story of two shy people who 'liked' each other but didn't do anything about it, mainly because we were usually with other people. Eventually, when we finally had our first date, we got our stuff sorted. We got married 10 months later.


Awww that's so nice! Haha...I'm such a girly. I love things like that though, where something is right in front of you, just it takes time to realise it. The best things are worth the wait

I would far rather a peaceful, adult discussion or even a controlled argument than pure antagonism.


Hopefully that will come to me in time. Though don't get me wrong I am capable of such discussions, and I do enjoy them. I'm kind of fiesty though, and I do have to admit, I enjoy a good debate at times.