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Fighting with your Partner

Words as weapons

from JoeUser Forums

 There are two schools of thought about fighting with your partner while both of you are angry.

One school says that words are said that are not the truth, just put out there to hurt.

 

The other school thinks that in anger the truth of things come out, you say what you have been feeling for years.

I am from the school that says the truth of how you feel comes out while angry.

What school are you?

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Reply #26 from JoeUser Forums Top
S.S. NAZI COLGENE


I'm from the if they voted for Bush, beat the shit out of them.


gene you are one sick twisted puppy.
Reply #27 from JoeUser Forums Top
that cannot keep your husband happy btw, keeping your hands to yourself. eh eh eh eh eh {dirty old man laugh}


MEN!!! geesh ......is that all you think about?  




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Reply #28 from JoeUser Forums Top
One school says that words are said that are not the truth, just put out there to hurt.



The other school thinks that in anger the truth of things come out, you say what you have been feeling for years. - ModerateMan

When I think I'm telling the truth those words are meant to hurt, but always I later say they were only made in anger.

gene you are one sick twisted puppy. - ModerateMan

I don't think that's Col.Gene out there, MM...

Reply #29 from JoeUser Forums Top
Once you say something, though, you can't take it back. It's there for eternity. That's important to remember


I know that all too well, I threw something (verbally) in my sister's face a few years ago, and it really hurt her. I've only done that I think twice in my life.

I tend to let things pile up and then errupt....like a volcano. Not good.

I'm trying to learn to talk about issues when they arise and deal with them immediately. And that's not easy for me.
Reply #30 from JoeUser Forums Top

When I think I'm telling the truth those words are meant to hurt, but always I later say they were only made in anger
Reply By: DeferencePosted: Thursday, September 28, 2006

so is your retraction by saying "it was only in anger" the truth?

Reply #31 from JoeUser Forums Top

Reply By: KFC (Kickin For Christ)Posted: Thursday, September 28, 2006
that cannot keep your husband happy btw, keeping your hands to yourself. eh eh eh eh eh {dirty old man laugh}


MEN!!! geesh ......is that all you think about?

nope, but there are some lines thrown out there that are just to good to pass up.

Reply #32 from JoeUser Forums Top

Reply By: TrudygolightlyPosted: Thursday, September 28, 2006
Once you say something, though, you can't take it back. It's there for eternity. That's important to remember


I know that all too well, I threw something (verbally) in my sister's face a few years ago, and it really hurt her. I've only done that I think twice in my life.

I tend to let things pile up and then errupt....like a volcano. Not good.

I'm trying to learn to talk about issues when they arise and deal with them immediately. And that's not easy for me.

I think the dealing with issues as they come up is the way to go trudy, this way you or I do not have the chance to blow things way out of proportion in our minds.

Reply #33 from JoeUser Forums Top
Words do hurt. I think we can all attest to that. I agree that when you're aguing saying things to hurt, that will invoke pain by just uttering them is something some people do. I try to talk things out. Sometimes I'm successful with it, other times I stew because he's supposed to know why I'm angry.

Sometimes he doesn't and then I have to spell it out for him. It's ridiculous that I"m on cue and will know what he's upset about, but he's clueless as to what I'm upset with him at. I usually hang up if I"m on the phone, or give the silent treatment until I calm down and can talk about it. I know it's probably childish, but it's better that way.


I tend to think that people will say things in the heat of the moment and they do mean it. Otherwise why say it in the first place? I know it's said to inflict hurt. But if you said it, you must think that way.