Nothing lasts forever anymore
This stinks....
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To start this story, let me inform you that my husband has 3 siblings- 2 brothers and 1 sister. The two brothers I couldn't really care less about. However, his sister has always been nice to us and she calls to check on us at least once every 2 weeks.
Debbie is 42 years old. Her and her husband, Anthony, have 4 sons. The boys' age range is from 11-18. This past Thanksgiving, I noticed that Debbie wasn't in the best of moods, but I figured that it was something temporary that'd pass. She didn't eat much at dinner time, and she wasn't laughing as much as usual. I passed my observations onto my husband after her and her family had driven back to Houston, and suggested that he call to be sure everything was okay. After a short time on the phone with her, he hung up and said, "Something is bothering her and she needs to talk, but she couldn't say anything at this very moment." Before he'd hung up, he offered for her to call either one of us at anytime, day or night if needed.
Well, yesterday I got a phone call. As I passed by the phone, my caller ID box showed a Houston area code number, so I picked it up. It was Debbie. She made a comment on how my voice sounded different, so I made a joke that I was drunk due to the fact that I'd chapperoned 4 small children on a field trip to the Christmas tree farm, earlier that day. She then said, "Well, I should be drunk.." So I asked her if she felt like talking about what was bothering her. What she told me was very alarming and upsetting.
As I said before, Debbie and her husband have 4 sons. They have been the model "Brady Bunch" family ever since my husband and I started dating back in 1992. Her husband is a computer scientist, and she's a secretary for an architect in Houston. They always made sure that they were in church on Sundays, and they still do...they're very active in their sons' activities in church, scouts, sports and school. Debbie said, "Anthony and I are really having problems,and he told me that he wants to move out." MOVE OUT??
Debbie then went on to tell me that her husband informed her that he doesn't have feelings for her anymore. After 19 years of marriage and 4 sons, he feels as if she "smothers" him if she wants to get close. Now, this next part is the real kicker..He knows a woman at his job that he has "alot in common with", and he feels as if he'd like to date her. As if that weren't enough, he told her that he still wants to go Christmas shopping with her, and he still wants to exchange gifts as if nothing is happening. He wants it to be a "good" Christmas for the boys.
In addition to the above, he told my sister in law that she should go open a checking account in her name, and that she may need to find full time work. Can you believe that?? He wants her and their boys to be taken care of. I'm nauseated.
Debbie told me that he agreed to try counseling with her, but he pretty much has his mind made up. I just cannot believe it..after 19 years of marriage??? He wants to move out and date another woman?? He actually asked my sister in law if, after he moved out and things changed, would she allow him to move back in.
I'm sorry, but whatever happened to sucking it up and sticking with it? He denies to her that it's a midlife crisis (he is 44), but I have a feeling that's exactly what's going on. Out of my husband and his 3 siblings, Debbie and Anthony's marriage was the most solid..or so I thought. He denies having already cheated on her, but I don't even know what I can believe anymore. Nothing lasts forever anymore...things can change in a heartbeat.
Debbie is 42 years old. Her and her husband, Anthony, have 4 sons. The boys' age range is from 11-18. This past Thanksgiving, I noticed that Debbie wasn't in the best of moods, but I figured that it was something temporary that'd pass. She didn't eat much at dinner time, and she wasn't laughing as much as usual. I passed my observations onto my husband after her and her family had driven back to Houston, and suggested that he call to be sure everything was okay. After a short time on the phone with her, he hung up and said, "Something is bothering her and she needs to talk, but she couldn't say anything at this very moment." Before he'd hung up, he offered for her to call either one of us at anytime, day or night if needed.
Well, yesterday I got a phone call. As I passed by the phone, my caller ID box showed a Houston area code number, so I picked it up. It was Debbie. She made a comment on how my voice sounded different, so I made a joke that I was drunk due to the fact that I'd chapperoned 4 small children on a field trip to the Christmas tree farm, earlier that day. She then said, "Well, I should be drunk.." So I asked her if she felt like talking about what was bothering her. What she told me was very alarming and upsetting.
As I said before, Debbie and her husband have 4 sons. They have been the model "Brady Bunch" family ever since my husband and I started dating back in 1992. Her husband is a computer scientist, and she's a secretary for an architect in Houston. They always made sure that they were in church on Sundays, and they still do...they're very active in their sons' activities in church, scouts, sports and school. Debbie said, "Anthony and I are really having problems,and he told me that he wants to move out." MOVE OUT??
Debbie then went on to tell me that her husband informed her that he doesn't have feelings for her anymore. After 19 years of marriage and 4 sons, he feels as if she "smothers" him if she wants to get close. Now, this next part is the real kicker..He knows a woman at his job that he has "alot in common with", and he feels as if he'd like to date her. As if that weren't enough, he told her that he still wants to go Christmas shopping with her, and he still wants to exchange gifts as if nothing is happening. He wants it to be a "good" Christmas for the boys.
In addition to the above, he told my sister in law that she should go open a checking account in her name, and that she may need to find full time work. Can you believe that?? He wants her and their boys to be taken care of. I'm nauseated.
Debbie told me that he agreed to try counseling with her, but he pretty much has his mind made up. I just cannot believe it..after 19 years of marriage??? He wants to move out and date another woman?? He actually asked my sister in law if, after he moved out and things changed, would she allow him to move back in.
I'm sorry, but whatever happened to sucking it up and sticking with it? He denies to her that it's a midlife crisis (he is 44), but I have a feeling that's exactly what's going on. Out of my husband and his 3 siblings, Debbie and Anthony's marriage was the most solid..or so I thought. He denies having already cheated on her, but I don't even know what I can believe anymore. Nothing lasts forever anymore...things can change in a heartbeat.