Activations are not shown on the main products page, which is likely why it came back empty. They sit one level down.
Log in at store.stardock.com/myaccount/products, click View Product Keys, then click the '...' icon next to the key. That opens a window listing the activations and which PC each one is on, and you can deactivate a machine from there without needing access to it.
If that view is still empty, Order History gives you a second look at the same data. Download Product Key Status .CSV and open it in Excel. The Registered To column names the computers the product is activated on. A formatted machine that was never deactivated should still show up in one of those two places.
For the VM cycle you described, the thing that saves you doing this again is deactivating from the command line as part of tearing the machine down, while it still exists.
SdDisplay.exe -deactivate -prodID=2674 -prodName="Start11" -company="Stardock" -prodVer="[the version you have installed]"
SdDisplay.exe lives in the product's own folder under C:\Program Files (x86)\Stardock, so point it at your Start11 folder. The published example is written for Fences and uses that product's path.
Two things in that line catch people out. -company is always literally "Stardock", never your own company name, and that is the most common self-inflicted cause of a failed activation or deactivation. And the product ID for Start11 v2 is 2674, not the 2663 that appears in most of the silent install examples, because 2663 is v1. The IDs change with each major version.
To check whether a given VM is actually holding a seat, look for \ProgramData\Stardock\Start11\license.sig. A successful activation creates it and a successful deactivation removes it.
One rule worth having before you bake any of this into an image: deploy unactivated and activate on the destination machine. If you activate first and then lay the image down, the license.sig gets overwritten and the activation goes with it.