Rape...

Yeah, rape is such a horrible thing. I know who to come to if a guy ever tries to rape me. I'll just come to you Shaun!

~carebear~

Yeah because a potential rapist is just going to go - oh hey Shaun thinks it's bad and will beat me up if I do ir - I better not. Or better yet I'll just TELL Shaun and he can beat me up and then I won't want to rape women to gain power anymore.

Dream on

Okay - sorry.

Look rape and abuse is about power. Girls, boys, men and women who commit sexual crimes usually are stronger/older then their prey and they have power over them. They don't wear signs saying Hey I'm a pedophile. They're teachers, coaches, dentists, parents, uncles, cousins, grandparents. They walk down the street, buy milk at the store - you can't tell who they are. There are no distinguishing features of sexual crime offenders.

I'll just come to you Shaun!

There ya go....that would be best....I'm not afraid of anybody or anything...except certain species of spiders....and I can open up a pretty big can of whoop ass.....

~Zoo

Ashley - Go to the Police.

Rape isn't a joke - it's not funny. Survivors of sex crimes are usually scared - too scared to finger their attacker or report the crime and the person gets away with and will do it again.

trina- Okay, that burns a bit...but I'm saying if I get the information, I can solve the problem....I know you won't believe me, but I can pretty much dispatch anyone physically as well as mentally.....

~Zoo

Ashley - Go to the Police.

That's probably one of the better things to do...but just give me 30 minutes beforehand....

~Zoo

Ok, let's just say...that if someone is scared to go to the police...a simple talk with me and I'll make sure the person goes to the police station....and positively identified...I'm not afraid of anyone...I'm offering my strength to those who need it...I'd be happy to hand the bastard over to the police...but just one crack at them and I'd feel better....maybe I should be a police officer.....

~Zoo

And then YOU will be charged with assault and regardless of why you did it you will still get in trouble - jail time, at the least it will go on your record.

I know how easy it is to get mad and want to hit out. Believe me I know - I am a survivor - I didn't know how much until I found out the same person who interferred with me did the same thing to at least 5 other girls including my baby sister - I was so mad I went outside and bashed my dad's pell. My dad wanted to run his sword threw the person.
(My parents are members of a middle ages reenactment society)

Had my dad acted on his anger - had he gotten one of his friends to beat the guy up or done it himself - HE would have gone to jail.

Instead we talked to the proper authorities charges were laid and we went to court.

You wouldn't be helping anyone by taking the law into your own hands Shaun - if you ever do find out that one of your friends has been attacked or has commited a crime and you want to help them then report it to someone in authority. If they don't listen tell someone else -- keep telling people until something is done about it. If they're too scared you be strong for them. Violence solves nothing and it just creates more problems.

True, Trina....I understand.....I guess it would depend on the situation....when I'm angry, I won't have control over my actions...I've never been truly angry, but in this situation, I believe I would lose control....perhaps I'd get arrested, but at least I'd have the satisfaction....I get your point...maybe your advice will cause me to stop and think someday....

~Zoo

5 points. I don't know what to say but I'm bored and I want to reply to this article.

Capt. over and out!

I agree......... even scum of the earth CONVICTS in prison hate rapist and pedophiles, the odds of being raped are 1 in 6 if female and 1 in 33 if male...thats sick!!

Ok, i've never been raped in my life. And yes I would go to the police. Actually before shaun, then i'd tell him. I was just joking around about only going to him. Chill......

~carebear~

I was just joking around about only going to him. Chill......

Precisely my point Ashley - It's NOT a joke. Not to the survivor (I refuse to say victim because that gives the perpetrator MORE power!)

You're young and sweet but it's not a joke - I can't chill it's too serious!

I wish i could express my anger/slash pain about such a topic but i can't. Abuse and power, men (sometimes women too i guess) can be pretty screwed up. you have no clue how angry just thinking about this makes me.

and trina's right, this is something to be taken lightly...it really ticks me off when people do.I don't know how anyone could even speak of it in a light manner at all, knowing that it happens to so many people and so many women are in pain.

I know you won't believe me, but I can pretty much dispatch anyone physically as well as mentally.....

Oh, please.

I could take you, and that's a guarantee. 

As for the subject matter.....rape is nothing to fool around with.  In any way, shape, or form.  You end up doing women who have been raped and all those who will be raped at some point in their lives a great disservice when you talk about it so...frivolously.

exactly

PROFILE OF THE VICTIM

rape victims most usually find themselves feeling overwhelming sence of violation after the crime has been commited for anywhere from five years to life. they tend to withdraw from social activities especially in large groups of people who are relitivly unfimiliar. they eventually go into a expressed response or a controled response. over long periods of time they experiance extreme restlessness, development of phobias, nightmares and recurring dreams of the experiance. some develop a compound reaction which involves depression, substance abuse psychotic behaviors and suicide. it was found that 35% of rape cases result in suicide. there is also the possibility of silent rape syndrom in which the victim tells no one of the violation or assult. Anxiety is supressed and the emotional burden may become overwhelming. the unresolved sexual trama may not be revealed untill the woman is forced to face another sexual crises in her life which reactivates the previous unresolved feelings. most rape victims cannot face long-term comitment and go through a cycle of abusive or shortlived relationships until the feelings are completely resolved.

wow kinjruh (kendra) way to use someone else's words to look smart.

it's really sad having to think about this stuff and i'd rather not but it's one of those things that you'll most likely have to deal with, eventually.

I just have one question though, of techincalities. Let's say you're married and you just don't feel like doing it so you tell the person not to and then just because you think you'll be nice, you go ahead and have sex anyways. Would that be rape? If so, would that likely leave you with the same problems that are described in kinjruh's comment?

Capt. over and out!

Let's say you're married and you just don't feel like doing it so you tell the person not to and then just because you think you'll be nice, you go ahead and have sex anyways. Would that be rape?

No, because there would have been consent when you decided to go ahead and 'do it' anyway just to be 'nice'. 

Rape is any kind of non-consensual sexual intercourse, regardless of whether it happens within a marriage/relationship or not. 

 

I'm around 'em every day at my job. You oughta be around them on a daily basis. Loads of fun...

Tell me about it. I work in a jail...

I could take you, and that's a guarantee.

So, you won't believe me....and I should take your guarantee to heart?.....Hmm, maybe I'm just crazy...well, I'm not going to argue. That's why I said "You're not going to believe me..." It's not worth arguing over the internet about when I'll probably never meet you in person...I know what I can do...you don't have to believe me...

As for the subject matter.....rape is nothing to fool around with. In any way, shape, or form. You end up doing women who have been raped and all those who will be raped at some point in their lives a great disservice when you talk about it so...frivolously.

This wasn't frivolous, or humorous in any way....those articles go in the humor section and are filled with my usual jokes, sarcasm, and wisecracks. I don't know if you noticed, but I wasn't trying to be funny, joking, or frivolous in the least.

~Zoo