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It's often clear where my husband has been, and what he has been doing. Not that he has anything to hide, but if he did, he really needs to learn to cover his tracks.

For example, I know he's had a little owie of some sort when I find a band-aid wrapper laying around somewhere. So I throw it away. I know the amount, type, and time of his purchases when I find the receipts invariably wadded up in the car. So I throw them away. I know what he was planning to eat at work, but changed his mind, when he leaves it in the car. So I carry it back upstairs to put it away. I know when he's either bought or stolen candy from the honor fridge at work when I find he's forgotten it in the car or in his pockets. I could go on and on, but the bottom line is:

He's cleanliness & orderliness impaired.

He's really a great husband though. But John, if you're reading this, that doesn't mean that I enjoy cleaning up all of your #$%&*@!. Quit trashing your environment. Take some responsibility for yourself. I don't mind cleaning up after the baby; I plan to teach him accountability for his own messes; he's already learning how to put things where they belong. John, it's time you learned too. I mean it, I will send you back to your parents so they can finish raising you.

But you're still really a good person all in all.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
i'm chucking at this because it will never change! Men are, at least most of them, messy by nature. They will not pick up their socks off the floor, they miss their aim when they pee, when they throw the wet towel in the hamper, not to mention the underwear! But ah heck, we love them anyway. I think I have mine nicely train to do some things around the house, hee, hee. But I just leave him alone when it comes to other stuff. That's all you can do Marie.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top

Did you know that he was messy before you married him?

Of course, he may be like me- I have a high tolerance, but once I hit a point, I'll clean.  Thats' not to say that I like a messy place, it's just that I simply don't care most of the time.

My husband knew that I was like that before we got married, and he deals with it.  It's really hard to "change" people, and all you will do is drive yourself crazy.  Telling a grown man to "learn" may not be the best approach.  If he doesn't care about the mess, he just doesn't care.  (I'm interjecting my own slob opinion there....)

I have been married t my husband for almost 9 years, and we have been together for over 11.  During this time, I have learned to ive with many things, and have learned to pick my battles.  I have also learned that for every annoying thing that he does I do something that equally annoys him.  So, if I want him to change something, I need to change something with myself.  I find it just easier to find ways to "deal" with the things he does that annoy me.

 

 

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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Oh, I forgot to mention that my husband is the "neat" one in the family.  He cleans the kitchen after I cook, does the majority of the laundry, etc.  In exchange, I take care of all the finances, cooking, shopping, etc.  If he was married to a normal women, the house would be amazingly clean!  But, he's not, so we end up just "normal" in the end. 
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Did you know that he was messy before you married him?

Yes, I knew it. But I overlooked it, as I try to most of the time.

I have also learned that for every annoying thing that he does I do something that equally annoys him. So, if I want him to change something, I need to change something with myself.

That's SO TRUE, Karmagirl.

In our case, for every annoying thing about him, I've got TEN about me! I need to work on changing.

He's done a lot of changing. It's amazing. Like night to day. Like slimy to clean. Like to !
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
You know all this husband battering brings me down. But I did enjoy the read. I thought it was funny. I was laughing all the way.
Now how come you don't say anything about me cleaning the kitchen, or vaccume when you tell me, or all the other things that I do for you. From all the prior entries you've posted you'd think that you lived in a dungon *spelt wrong maybe*. Fact is both our lives are better since we've been together.

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Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Oh and I think it's funny how you're able to keep track of me. Very endeering.
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
Men are, at least most of them, messy by nature.


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