Men are from Mars and women from Venus, right?

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Well why do i feel like i'm from Mars and he's from Venus then?

Ok not really, but there are somethings that scream that Darren and I aren't your average couple. He likes to talk a lot. He can chat to me about almost anything. And i'll listen or should i say half listen. Most of the time when i ask him about something he'll be like "but i've told you about this already, you ever listen to me?" People have told me that that's how women are normally. Chatter boxes. I'm not. He is. Mmmh

Then the cooking. I hardly cook, i hate the deed! He on the other hand, even if he's not really keen WILL cook breakfast, lunch or dinner. And the washing? Oh my gosh, he knows exactly what kind of powder to use that wont make colors fade, and what products for white clothes. Me on the other hand wash my clothes at the local laundry "Easy Wash"... I can hear 'boooo' from a distant crowd, gulp!

Aah, one thing i do good is the cleaning up and wash up after meals, yeehee, good on me huh?!

Of course i am not complaining. I think it's really good actually. Lets say if we lived together we'd have our defined chores, heh.

But then comes the romantic times. I consider myself romantic, but he really impresses me sometimes. He will cook something nice, we'll have dinner by candle light, and then a bubly bath by candle light as well and er, etc, etc... :D

I cant think of something that elaborate. I'd go for a picnic on a beach just the two of us with lots of cuddling. (NO! I DID NOT SAY SEX ON THE BEACH!!!)

Anyway, i think it's because he's been raised with two big sisters, and me with one big brother. He's in touch with his feminine side (NO, I DID NOT SAY GAY!!!) and i've been a tomboy for as long as i remember (NO I'M NOT A BUTCH!!! GET OUTTA HIA!).

Lol, hehe, anyway, i think i'm just mumbling over nothing now, got to get myself some aspirin...
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
Well, actually neither Mars or Venus are capable of supporting human life. Mars has little oxygen if any in its atomosphere and Venus will poison you and burn you into a small greasy spot on the ground.....

Okay enough being a smart ass...

Actually your relationship is getting somewhat reversed, which is typical for today's couples. The pressures of society on men to get in touch with their feminine side and for women to stand up for themselves and not be controlled by men is definately taking effect. Don't worry about stereotypes....most of them are getting debunked all the time.

~Zoo
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
This was an entertaining article IG.

Stereotypes are silly, but often can be useful in helping to frame things in an appropriate context. But what really matters is how you two feel with each other. I think it is nice to mix things up and break out of the stereotypical gender roles sometimes. Sounds like you have a pretty healthy relationship.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'll second what BlueDev said, what matters is how you two feel about each other.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hehe, zoologist, u typed the words yourself
enough being a smart ass...

But you're right, stereotypes dont last.

Gar, laisse moi vérifier ton article, ça m'a l'air hilarant, comme à ton habitude

BlueDev:
This was an entertaining article IG.

Thanks man, that means alot coming from you!
I think i know what you mean when you say that sterotypes help framing what the real picture should be. And that why i was like, wait a minute, are we normal?? lol! But yeah, as long as we love each other, then the hell with it! haha

I'll second what BlueDev said, what matters is how you two feel about each other.

Thanks Danny, i think at the end of the day that's what really matters!
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
I found good answers to your opening question "Men Are From Mars and Women From Venus, Right?" from these two books - Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps by Allan & Barbara Pease; and Personality Plus by Florence Littauer. Allan Pease is the author of the bestselling Body Language. Both books helped me a lot in developing strong relationships with others.
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thank you for your insight MC. I think i've heard about the 1st book mentioned. It's something about what side of the brain we mostly use from one gender to the other, or something like that i think? Correct me if i'm wrong...
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hey IG, it is all about emotional intelligence. I don't know about your 'left side or right side' point, but I do know women, on the whole, are far more emotionally mature than men.

I think maybe Darren talks a lot because he doesn't know how to deal with the silences. Some people think they have to be saying something witty all the time or else other don't think them interesting. Just a thought...
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hey IG, it is all about emotional intelligence. I don't know about your 'left side or right side' point, but I do know women, on the whole, are far more emotionally mature than men.


Well i think i read somewhere once that the right side of the brain is emotions and left side is rationality. (or was it the opposite, it's a bit blurry cuz it was couple of years ago). And that women used the right side of their brain when dealing with issues more than the left side and vice versa for men. So it kind of supports what you're saying here. I'm probably totally wrong

I dont know why he talks alot. We have our moments of silences which we appreciate alot, like when we're preparing our sandwiches and we'll just look at each other and wink, and smile or just start laughing out of the blue. We're pretty crazy. I've told him we act more like brother and sister than boyfriend and girlfriend. I dont complain about it anymore, cuz i know if it was any different it would be boring.