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What Is It With Guys???

from JoeUser Forums
What is wrong with guys that they just skip from one girl to the next? Do they love to break our hearts? I just dont understand because many guys I have dated this year have all been jerks in the end. I start talking to a guy and then couple weeks later he is hooked up with someone else or his ex-girlfriend. Yeah, I am so sick of being treated like crap by guys when I am so nice and caring towards them.

Too many guys have hurt me in my life and I am so sick of trying to give a guy a chance. There has been 2 male figures in my life and one of them just entered into my life, that have actually been there and treated me right. One of them is my step-dad Gary and the other is my best friends dad. They both have treated me like I was their own daughter. I dont even know my real dad and God knows that he probably doesnt even care cause he hasnt called me or tried to talk to me in 16yrs almost 17. I hate that.

This year I have dated 6 guys and only 4 of them were my boyfriend. Two of them were guys that I went on dates with and they turned out to be not the ones for me. I dated Renaldo who left for a week and then called me up at 330 in the morning saying how much he loved me and wanted to be with me. Feeling some guilt about something. Well we ended up breaking up and I went out with a friend to the movies and we decided just friends was better.

Next there was Kevin who tried to tell me how I was supposed to act, what I was supposed to wear, and where I could and could not go. Yeah I was abused in my younger years and no guy is ever going to tell me what I can and can not do. We dated for a month before he got mad at me for hugging one of my guy friends and called me a slut and a hoe and then told me that he loved me and wanted to be with me. Yeah okay well I dumped him and he almost hit me. My mom found out about all the mess and helped me get through the harrassing phone calls and crap that he started pulling on me or I would probably still be in that relationship. AWW!!!

Next I met a guy from work that was so awesome and extremely nice. We went and hung out once or twice. He took me to lunch and bought it and trust me I am not used to guys paying for me for anything and he did. That was so awesome. Well the only problem that we ended up being friends is he is going to the navy and didnt want a long distance relationship. Good Luck out there Chris, I got love for ya.

Next I met Adam through one of my friends. He turned out to be a totally druggie and did the exact same things as Kevin. My mom came to the rescue again. Yeah thanks mom your awesome. Then finally I dated Johnny who just broke up with his ex and I just got over a breakup and so yeah things went on for 5 days and we both agreed we were rebounded.

Then as all my friends know comes Eddie. He was one of the greatest guys I have ever met. When him and I started talkin I lost one of my friends who had been talking about me behind my back. Eddie and I hung out and talked all the time. In fact I almost lost one of my best friends over him. But then I find out that he is actually dating someone and then he is talking to his ex. I really dont care except for the fact Sam is calling me a ho and all these other things are being said from her and Eddie doesnt talk to me anymore. Thats my problem.

I just hate guys sometimes because they can act just like a jerk. They are called players bc they have so many girls but in reality there a ho just like a girl can be. Girls are called sluts and hos because they sleep with more than one guy but its cool for a guy to do that. Yeah ok. Guys Im sorry but you all get on my nerves sometimes and im getting to the point that its hard for me to trust that many guys anymore.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
Do you think it's possible that the guys you are referring to think you may not offer any sort of stable relationship since you say you've dates so many guys this year already, and the year is only 1/4 done? I know a couple of guys who really wanted some long relationship with some woman but were too wary to commit since the women were somewhat loose morally. Guy's that are seriously looking for love don't usually want to get too involved with women who like being with lots of guys historically. They may be too timid to risk their feelings on someone they think may just move on to another guy.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
That is a lot of guys for only April. Maybe you should think about not dating anyone for more than 2wks. It seems to me that you're insecure about yourself and need a guy, so you grab one as soon as you can and they usually end up being kind of like you. It's true guys can be whores as much as girls can...but look at yourself before you judge others.

I don't usually like to sound like a dick...I'm just making you think. Don't take it personally.

~Zoo
Galactic Civilizations IV
Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Jess, maybe you need to slow down a bit....I know how you feel...there have been points in my life when I have thought that all guys are a**holes.....but it's just not true...there are some good men out there. I assume that you are young, so don't lose hope....since you are having these feelings right now, maybe it's a good idea to step away from finding a guy....go out and enjoy other things--find a new hobby, go out with friends, get to know yourself more and what you really want. Everyone wants love, I know....you'll probably find it when you least expect it.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
i mean this has been since the year 2004 in april so it has been spread out and no i dont just grab on to a guy but i start out as friends and then things lead to another.

i dont know see i just have a problem with guys in general bc i was abused growing up and then ive never met my dad so that shows where guys truely stand in my life.

my life has been so unstable guys jsut seemed to be the answer in most cases but then they ended up causing more pain for me. and im not a ho or a slut bc half the time we dont get intimate or anything like that so thanx and i just was blowin off steam bout some things my friend said bout me sorry guys for all ths bs i said i just was mad. sorry little_whip i didnt mean to be consistely wrong bout every little comment.

jess
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top

*clears throat*

Jessie is not a slut.  She's a good girl.  None of ya'll have taken the time to get to know her, ask her questions, or attempt a civil relationship, so if she took ya'lls opinions as anything other than hasty judgement, she'd be the ignorant one.

Guys suck, it's a fact.  I still like 'em!  The sooner you can all accept it, the better off we'll all be.

Trinitie

Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
~Reiki, don't beat around the bush, dude. Call her a slut and get on with your bad self.
I have never in my life witnessed someone so consistently wrong about...well, about EVERYTHING. Gah.~

blondie, I think little whip made those comments toward reiki house...anyway, hope you are feeling better.
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thanx InBloom I am feeling so much better right now. We may have found my sis and my grandma is feeling ten times better.

I actually ran into the girl that I was blowin all the steam off of and she denied calling me alot of things that she did and then I ran into Eddie, the guy that was the last one that I went out with and we didnt say anything to each other.

It doesnt matter about the other comment bc everyone has their own opinions and I have mine so that is the way I see it.

Thanx again.
Jess
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top

I'm excited about yoru sis!

InBloom, you rock the house!

Trinitie

Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
Trinite,

THANX so much and hopefully this weekend will be much better than last with everything. We have probably found my sis so Im excited bout that. I hope you and your sisters are doing better than the other day. I love ya girl.

Jess
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hey, little_whip, I have never heard of someone that is so stupid and wrong in everything they say! You are just jealous because you don't know what you are talking about.
Aloha