How I get by...

I had a conversation this afternoon about how I deal with the lack of sexual contact when my husband's gone.

It got me thinking about what I do to get by.

No, there's not going to be any graphic descriptions (you can breathe either sighs of relief or disappointment now). 

The most important thing is to never let your guard down.  Need is a sneaky bugger, it creeps up on you and you don't realize it.  You cannot let yourself get lulled into a sense of security, because you can blow your entire relationship.

Like I said before, I haven't been unfaithful.  I have, however, put myself into some situations that weren't really appropriate.  I've been lucky, I've come to my senses and put the brakes on before I did anything that would guilt me for ever, but.....it could so easily have gone on to be a relationship-wrecking incident.

The other thing I do is ask myself if Dave would be angry or usept at what I'm about to do.  If I can't tell him outright without being worried about his reaction....then that's a solid indication that it's not a good idea.  I also turn the tables - if he was doing what I'm about to do, would I be upset?  If the answer is yes, then I don't do it.  Those rules apply to other aspects of life too, not just about sexuality.  Money, disciplining the kids...it applies to pretty much everything.

I'm not a submissive person by any means.  I'm not a scared little wifey who does everything her husband demands.  It's not about submission, it's about respect.  I do what I want to, for the most part....but I'm not the only one in this relationship.  This is a partnership, and as such there have to be negotiations.  Negotiations are near impossible when you're separated by hundreds of thousands of miles and have very limited access to each other, so....we simply don't do anything that would require negotiation until we're in the same place (if we can help it).

Oh, and a battery operated boyfriend is a wonderful thing......lol