There is no need for anyone to feel discouraged. If you have been on the board long enough, you will know that we have had long periods of time where there were runaway leaders on the Empire board.
When I joined one week after the game was launched, it was Apolyton. Then the Euros. Then GROSS. But once players become dormant, we see how quickly the rankings can change.
So join the empire of your choosing and have fun with the people in the empire and outside of the empire. Unless the sole purpose of your empire is to reach Number 1, there is no reason why you cannot have fun empiring even if you don't ever reach first.
But if you really would like to be part of an empire which might one day become first, roll up your sleeve -play and recruit! Did you really expect that honor to be handed to you on a platter? Yes, it's not fair that we don't all start at the same time but like they say, life's not fair, get used to it.
No one can intimidate you unless you let them. Ignore those immature ones and just have fun. There will always be friendly bantering to spice up the race but I'm sure we are all adult enough to know where the line is.
For aspiring empires, carve out a good niche for yourself and build on it. Have fun, perserve at it and folks would definitely want to be part of your empire. Look at the Jedis if you want to know what I mean.