Daily Love Tip #2

Saying I'm Sorry

from JoeUser Forums
An apology is the SuperGlue of life. It can repair just about anything.

Contrary to the memorable line from the movie Love Story, sometimes love does mean having to say you're sorry. A sincere apology is not a sign of weakness. On the contrary, acknowledgement that you are at fault will strengthen your marriage as well as your spouse's admiration for you.

Don't let pride and stubbornness stand in the way of sincerely apologizing when you are wrong. We all have need of absolution at times. When those times come, the strength of your marriage will rest on your willingness to make things right with six little words: "I was wrong. Please forgive me."

Personal note: I've discovered it is possible to be TOO good at apologizing....what I mean by that is, apologizing when you really didn't do anything, just to keep the peace with someone who is convinced they are always right. Thank goodness I am no longer in a relationship where THAT is necessary!!!
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
And please, don't ever twist the apology. You know, apologize for the other person's feelings instead of your actions. "Gee, I'm sorry you're upset that I got drunk and acted the fool", or " I' m sorry you're hurt because I forgot your birthday". Those are the worst kind of apologies.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
And please, don't ever twist the apology. You know, apologize for the other person's feelings instead of your actions. "Gee, I'm sorry you're upset that I got drunk and acted the fool", or " I' m sorry you're hurt because I forgot your birthday". Those are the worst kind of apologies.

Absolutely! I've gotten my share of that kind of apology over the years...and they definitely do NOT help. They just, IMO, aggravate the situation even more. I'd rather the person say nothing at all, you know?
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
I know what you mean by "being TOO good at apologizing". i have this friend that keeps on saying sorry for each and every mistake that she makes. the rpoblem i hve with her is that saying sorry too many time for a mistake that she keeps on repeating just makes it worse. What i mean is that when wshe says im sorry to me nowdays it just doesnt mean anything to me anymore.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
"I know what you mean by "being TOO good at apologizing". i have this friend that keeps on saying sorry for each and every mistake that she makes. the rpoblem i hve with her is that saying sorry too many time for a mistake that she keeps on repeating just makes it worse. What i mean is that when wshe says im sorry to me nowdays it just doesnt mean anything to me anymore. "

Sounds like my 14 yr old....I've told her that from now on, I don't want to hear "I'm sorry" come out of her mouth unless she is actually prepared to STOP doing the thing that she's apologizing for...if she goes back and does it again, then how sorry was she for doing it in the first place? It's taking some time, but I think it's beginning to sink in!!