Daily Love Tip # 15
Deal With Your Emotional Baggage
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The first rule is to keep an untroubled spirit. The second is to look things in the face and know them for what they are.
All human beings have painful experiences that have an impact on them at some level. They can affect the way we make decisions and relate to others, including our mates. If you experience feelings of guilt, failure, anger or shame as a result of past experiences, don't ignore them. They are likely to intensify and will undoubtedly affect your marriage.
It will take some courage, but if you want to be a more secure, loving person and spouse, it's vital that you work to heal broken places in your heart. Take a look at yourself honestly. Be willing to talk with God, your close friends, your mate, or maybe even a professional counselor. The healthier you are emotionally, the healthier your marriage will be.
LIGHTEN YOUR LOAD--DROP YOUR EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE.
Personal note: This is something I had to deal with when I entered the relationship with Barry, my now husband. After two bad marriages, I went into this relationship expecting him to be just like those two men, and reacted to everything he said and did as if he were going to treat me the same way they had treated me. It took us a few months to work through it, but we both felt it was worth the time and effort, and it's brought us closer together and strengthened our love.
All human beings have painful experiences that have an impact on them at some level. They can affect the way we make decisions and relate to others, including our mates. If you experience feelings of guilt, failure, anger or shame as a result of past experiences, don't ignore them. They are likely to intensify and will undoubtedly affect your marriage.
It will take some courage, but if you want to be a more secure, loving person and spouse, it's vital that you work to heal broken places in your heart. Take a look at yourself honestly. Be willing to talk with God, your close friends, your mate, or maybe even a professional counselor. The healthier you are emotionally, the healthier your marriage will be.
LIGHTEN YOUR LOAD--DROP YOUR EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE.
Personal note: This is something I had to deal with when I entered the relationship with Barry, my now husband. After two bad marriages, I went into this relationship expecting him to be just like those two men, and reacted to everything he said and did as if he were going to treat me the same way they had treated me. It took us a few months to work through it, but we both felt it was worth the time and effort, and it's brought us closer together and strengthened our love.