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Is There Something Wrong?

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Is There Something Wrong?

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from JoeUser Forums
I was just thinking... I tend to try and be as calm as I can, and not get upset. I don't think I've really been upset enough to hurt someone in around 4 or 5 years. Maybe even longer. I can't remember. My parents are divorced, my oldest sister is a drug addict, she lost her first 3 children to her ex-husband, and her last child; she put up for adoption; is with my uncle. My next oldest sister had a child with a man who already had 2 children and a wife. My mom cries all the time because of all she has to do to keep them from loosing everything, and my little sister and I have a pretty good life other than for these few things.

It seems like no matter how much wrong someone has done to me, I still refuse to get mad. I hardly even show any emotion other than happiness, which I KNOW isn't always what I feel. My voice doesn't show the difference in how I'm feeling most of the time, so even when I am mad no one knows it.

Some little kid was throwing rocks at my car today and the first thing that I did was tell him not to hit the windows. I didn't even get up or try and scare him away. I just told him not to go too far.

Then some other kid jumped into my car and started looking around in it, and I said it was ok because I still had my phone, keys, and wallet on me.

Do you think I have anger-management problems?

There's definitely more things that I could talk about that make me "upset" but don't get to me because I refuse to allow it. Should I just allow my problems to get to me and react with instinct, like most people would? I just feel like my "happiness" is an act that I can't stop performing. I'm not sure if you understand, but if you do could you please give me some advice? This is truly something I need some help figuring out, and I know that my mom doesn't take this seriously enough, because I've asked her about it and she made it seem like I was just joking around.

That's all for now. If you have something to share with me, please let me know...

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Reply #26 from JoeUser Forums Top
There's definitely more things that I could talk about that make me "upset" but don't get to me because I refuse to allow it. Should I just allow my problems to get to me and react with instinct, like most people would? I just feel like my "happiness" is an act that I can't stop performing. I'm not sure if you understand, but if you do could you please give me some advice? This is truly something I need some help figuring out, and I know that my mom doesn't take this seriously enough, because I've asked her about it and she made it seem like I was just joking around.


I wouldn't call it an anger-management problem, because that tends to be used more in terms of those who can't control their anger, and express it in negative ways. Seems like you just have a block of some type when it comes to expressing any negative emotions. The fact that you're asking about it would seem to indicate that it is becoming a problem for you, so perhaps it's time to look into discussing it with someone in a professional capacity.

That's exactly it. I've been told these things all my life but the bible says to remain loving.


But you can remain loving while still giving a voice to all your emotions. There is nothing that says you have to stop loving someone while you are angry with them, or upset by their behavior, or whatever. It's just like I tell my kids: I may not like what you do or say, but I NEVER stop loving you, even when I'm telling you what I think was wrong about what you said or did.



Reply #27 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thanks Poetmom. So, would you say that I MAY have a problem, just not the one I think it is? I truly do understand that it could be a problem if I'm asking about it, but doesn't that also mean it could just be me getting too nervous? Maybe I'm over-exagerating... What do you say?

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Reply #28 from JoeUser Forums Top
I think you're appearantly just a really nice guy. And also, one thats hard to come about. It is good to express your anger, but not over board. I tend to go overboard and then I just blow everything way out of proportion. . . oy vey.. anyways.. just thought I'd leave you a comment cause you made me smile earlier.. Keep looking up. Things will get better with time. and to be honest, I think your "anger" problem, will get better. But like I said, just don't go over board with expressing the anger.

hope it makes sense.. its like midnight and I'm half asleep and my tears are blocking my vision.. ok well not really blocking, just blurring.. oh well... If you ever need to talk, feel free to e-mail me...
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Reply #29 from JoeUser Forums Top
Yeah, that makes sense, I just don't know how to really explain it.

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