I would like to know in detail from someone saying I should ignore them, WHY.

I can't really change the way I am.

For me, I tend to let my feelings turn to anger. I generally end up in rage against the ones that pissed me off.

I realize I shouldn't let them play me like that, but in the same way, why should I be expected to change? The bum who said this is probably next gonna go to some mentally hndicapped kid and start making fun of him.

You really think we should be making excuses for people who do this?

What difference does people who hate people for color or sexual prefence have any difference on militants who hate the west and wanna kill ya?

Dunno bout everyone else but you seem to be the most angry, name calling person here. Being a bit hypocritical I'd say.  :NOTSURE: 

I'm sorry to say but there is no "slightly bi", you either are bi or your not. Just be yourself and don't worry about what others say. Bias and bigitry will always be around especially around homosexuality. This is mainly because of religion and that's not going anywhere any time soon, and from what I've read you live in the "Bible Belt" region so you are going to have a tuff time.

Next time someone makes a negitive comment towards you let them know how you feel about it. It's better than holding it in and blowing up later about it. I agree with NT about getting "thicker skin" and that nothing is going to change, at least not in my life time or even yours. So find a way to deal with it.  

Yes, because I'm not neanderthal like you guys seem to be.

I have feelings, and your telling me I should ignore hate.

Ignoring it only goes so far.

1. Yes, you can.

2. We're not telling you to change your core character, we're telling you to learn to react more like an adult.

3. You allow your emotions far too much control over yourself, by your own admission. That's something that you have complete control over. You can't change them, so why even try? The only person you can change is you - so pony up and be a man. Learn to slough off those feelings of hate that bog you down so badly.

This is probably the best way to go. People need to be vocal. I can't just ignore things. I can't just pretend they aren't bothering me.

I treat people with respect, I care about people...

But I need to become a man.

Well whatever.

Hum...

Is this your defintion of a man?

Is this all of your definitions?

I should be tough and take everything?

So it doesn't matter what a male person does as far as respect goes, all that makes is man is that he can take a beating, either physically or mentally?

Here's a protip: If a person says they've gone thru something for 10 years, and went thru abuse from their dad, their stronger then you.

This is my first time speaking about it.

I should be a neanderthal?

I'm seeing exactly the problem now. it's society. I'm betting you'd call the other guy a man simply because he's tough.

Their's no expectation from men for men to actually give a shit about people, you just gotta get strong and act like you don't care about anyone.

Synthesize those emotions, redirect them.

This isn't as hard as you like to pretend it is.

If you choose to let these emotions fester in you, your life will be empty, hollow, and ultimately pointless.

Grow up!

Turning the other cheek and walking away makes YOU the better person.

Showing your anger to them is the desired result they were seeking.

Ignoring them is the best option.

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Now: [Moderator hat on]

TheDarkKnight2008 ...you started this thread. You needed to vent. That I understand.

However, please do NOT misdirect your anger towards those that are responding to you. They are/were merely offering advice/help.

I also urge you to read this website's TOS [Terms of Service] carefully, before you make a post you'll regret making.

Thankyou.

You mean be your definition of a man?

Take the burn? Pretend ya don't care?

Men should care as much as anyone.

No, I'd be calling him a dick, and I'd be calling you a boy who thinks he's a man because he can pretend to be respectful.

I've been friendly and respectful to others since I was a child - five, six years old. So does that mean I've been a man since then?

Your pigeonholing a ridiculous definition of what it means to be a 'man', while humorous, is ultimately futile. Being a true man encompasses all these things - respect, honor, standing up when the situation merits (in the case of actual abuse) and being able to let the water roll off your back when the situation is moot (like getting called gay in a store, for heaven's sake).

Until you learn that, you will continue to take offense at stupid things, and (as John mentioned) excel in your hypocrisy.

I'm sorry, but your bandwagon jumping on a 10 year old problem I've had, and you think you have an assesment on if I'm a man or not?

And then you say you have honor? Don't joke please.

I'm wondering when you'll figure out that venting on the internet is not running from anything.

It's like venting to a counselour.

Anyone who tears down a man for having feelings is a boy themselves.

But yes guys, hold everything in, and then go blow up. See how that helps ya.

You obviously shouldn't talk to anyone about it. That's obviously being a man. You need to take the pain.

Hate, predudice and bigotry can be both hereditary and contagious.(Now you're spreading it here) It sounds to me you you let others "infect" you too easily. No, don't change who or what you are, you'll just be miserable. Instead, immunize yourself.    Know in your heart that you are the kind of person YOU want to be,and not what others want to make you. And it's still "cool" to open a door for a lady, I do it all the time, and I don't give a rats ass what anybody makes of it! Peace.  P.S.  A recent South Carolina "Redneck",and damn proud of it. Beats Illinois.

Hehe, this is funny. As an older man I've seen all of this.  As an ex mailman, I've seen the youth act like they don't have nay manors.  I say high to people 50 and over and have no problems.  The people 30 and younger have probably had both parents working so their up bringing has been spotty.  Thats why they act they way they do.  Give me give me, piss on you etc etc. I really don't see a change comming.  Guess I need to check the birth rates of men and women.  If the cycle has turned back to more males being born, ya can add 20 years and thats the next war.  Then things might change.  

Wow, I really am done with this thread.

You truly are a petulant little boy, TheDarkKnight2008. Have a wonderful life in that world of solitude and hate you're constructing about yourself.

It actually is funny. They haven't figured out yet that I need to vent so that I can continue, they just took the time to tear me down.

I'm sorry, I'm 28 and your 24. Your a recent college grad, if you even went. I've seen alot more then you have. So please do run.

And do keep up respecting others and having honor.

The older you get the more you will learn the wisdom of 'choosing your fight'.

No-one will thank you for escalating 'relative' triviality into something bigger.

People who react strongly to outside 'influence' are simply demonstating their own lack of maturity and common sense.

People who are uncomfortable with others' sexuality are simply indicating their own insecurity with their own.

If you see someone, anyone who is being assaulted physically by all means step in.  Society 'may' just thank you.

If someone indicates by gesture that he thinks you are 'gay' either blow him a kiss or walk away, or both.  Attempting to prove the size of your gonads will generally result in them being kicked.

The 'bigger man' won't care what others think....he will be above that....;)

Well that's why I made this post. Needed to vent.

If you hold everything in, you end up getting highly angry.

This post is done now, if you want to lock it, you can.

Those of you who actually gave good responses, thanks, those of you who could only tear me down, you know whwere you can go.

Oh....and I'm 54 in September .....like WOM there's some 'old heads' here too...;)

But ya, thanks for your wisdom Jafo, sometimes it just bothers you.

What really set it off was yesterday. Not the cvs thing. My friends were treated like sex objects to assholes.

Gah.

They were telling everyone about how many they screwed, making fun of everyone, I told them to respect people and they called me a faggot.

Oh yeah, they were also using the big penis argument. Oh, women love their big penis, typical dumb kid crap.

TBQH a man shouldn't be tore down or called names when all he's doing is telling people to respect others. Nor should he be told to change.

I brought up what I tried once to show that I'm not afraid of anything like that. Which makes me wonder why people would come and tear me down in this topic.