Zen teachers describe the beginner's mind as a 'chattering monkey'...when you try not to think, the chattering monkey takes over and you think even more. When I sit and the chattering monkey takes over, I simply acknowledge that I'm thinking and let it go, and concentrate on following my breath.... Y
cripes, the above post was moi, little-whip. ~heads off to log her Hubby out~
1) Heather stole my thought! It's about time.........yay, yippee, here we goooooooooo! 2) Assuming Simon already knew, my parents. 3) Making amends, delivering overdue apologies, contacting old friends and extended family members ive ignored and telling them i love them. 4) Drugs, sex, and magickal ritual with my Hubby. 5) Travelling on the astral plane, watching it all come down.
lmaooooo....good article. You've won little-whip's "first chuckle of the day" award. And an insightful.
To kingbee: or those who believed it possible (as i still do) that men are only able to engage the divine through the body of a woman? I gave you an insightful for that. For myself alone I'd modify your statement to 'through the body', rather than making the bodies of women solely the vehicles
"ATheist" (note the two CAPS "A" and "T" . It actually meant something like "A-Typical" , meaning abnormal or someone who had departed from the normal understanding or belief in God, rather than someone who did not believe in God at all. Atheist. Composed of 'A' And 'Theist' and meaning without a per
A more concise version of the above has just been provided me by my wife, little_whip - All other things being equal, which would you rather have? A $50 dollar gold band or a $50 000 rock? Gimme the fucking rock, man....
Y'all (as they say here) should go read Marx. What you're talking about is called disenchantment through commodification. Which is easily summed up and explained in the phrase: when everything has a price nothing has value. And in a market society, in which every form of social exchange is actually an opportunity for buying and selling, everything eventually acquires a price. And in so doin
To notsohighlyevolved No problem over the redundant post. It helps when you understand that the Masochist is complicit in what the Sadist does to her. Both Masochist and Sadist are driven to either suffer or impose pain. Both want the same thing - but from different sides. And I see no difficulty with sex as 'use and gratification' - we all use each other in a variety of ways, and sex is no different. Nor do I have any problem wi
To Danny Bassette grinnnnnnnns @ the silly grin
To notsohighlyevolved you ask a good question. And you are right to do so by pointing out the inconsistency in what I said. The only instance that I can honestly think of in which a Lover may truly be selflessly devoted to another's sexual needs over his or her own, is that of the submissive/slave. And I don't find that instance in any way laughable. What amuses me beyond measure is the thought that somehow it has become possible to a
To Danny Bassette A shorter, more concise, reply to your question was provided to me by Sabrina (little_whip). If your true response to the sexual needs of another is to serve them with complete fidelity, without interest in your own sexual satisfaction... then, Danny, you are a natural sexual slave and you should seek out a female Dominant who will know how to respond to that devotion.
To Danny Bassette Link The link is to an essay that I wrote a few years ago, which my wife had the foresight to post here on JU (which means it wasn't lost when she performed major brain surgery on this machine and replaced the hard drive). It deals with what I consider to be the proper, natural, and honest relations between a man and a woman. Those relations
To Dharmagirl I won't dispute the validity of your experience, as you understand it. I will say this, though. Having experienced Vanilla sex, what might be termed 'sadism-lite' (aka D/s-BDSM relationships), the exaltation that accompanies a successful sexual encounter outside the frame of reference of Sadism and Masochism (and I don't deny that such encounters have their own measure of success and satisfaction) is rather like a candle-f
The attention that Sadists and Masochists pay each other is qualitatively different from that found in other forms of sexual, psychological, and social relationships. The difference lies in its honesty. Vanilla sex is dishonest sex, and dishonest because those party to it pretend to a concern for the pleasure of the other with whom they are involved that is
A gradual evolution, that began on the net and over time moved to face to face confrontations. The effect of these confrontations (some long lasting, others less so) was to make evident that all those things I'd wanted and denied myself because I wasn't willing to deal with just how perverse I actually am, were more than 'fantasies', or something to be satisfied in episodic role play, but something real and vital in my personality. <TABLE cell
I moved this from Misc to here to see if it might attract more active attention than it has done...
I have 14 (and will be getting more) and all of them are in some way indicators of where I then was. I got the first to celebrate my divorce from my first wife, for instance. The last was a large Celtic sunface on my lower back (took three hours to complete) with, in Gothic lettering, the words 'The Prince', underneath. The evolution from newly-divorced geek to Prince of Sadists is chronicled in ink...
Whenever I've written about Sadism before it's been from a theoretical, intellectual perspective. Which is ironic, because there's nothing theoretical or intellectual about it. It's a way of short-circuiting the intellect, the ceaseless cogitation that produces theory, in fact. Nonetheless, it's been (and remains) necessary. There's any amount of
To dharmagrl: Certainly I'll write more. I appreciate an intelligent, interested audience. And since you are interested, and there may be things you want to ask about but don't feel comfortable doing so in JU, here's my email. [email protected]. A 24/7, total power exchange (TPE) relationship can't be played, can't be acted. In our case its made up of three distinct relationships that sometimes work together, someti
To Danny Bassette: it is quite comical, watching the contortions that some who are into D/s-BDSM put themselves through, trying to make a perversion acceptable by dressing it up as 'love'. Child molesters love little kids. Heroin addicts love the needle and what it carries, alcoholics love the bottle. Nuns love Jesus, President Bush loves America, and I as her husband love my wife. Just because it's love doesn't mean it's not toxic. <BR
To Dylan: thank you.
We have the Sundance Channel on cable now. As I'm writing this there's a show about S&M called 'Whipped' being broadcast. So far, what's been made apparent is the need of those involved to qualify what they're doing as a different expression of love. Pardon me, but that's simply bullshit. Love is an all-consuming fascination with the good of the l
Im sure that once the powers that be notice this crap manya is gonna spend some time in the corner. Me, im used to it...she aint the first bloggin fool ive seen self destruct after antagonizing me. Its just a gift i have, i suppose.
Sigh... I forgot to log Her Malignancy out before writing that.
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