Never Been Kissed

And Proud of It

from JoeUser Forums
That's right folks. I've never been kissed.

I view kissing as a sacred act---something with which you only share with someone you are deeply in love with. Maybe that makes me naive, but I don't care. I would never kiss someone I didn't love, and this has thrown many of my "boyfriends" (if you wanna call them that) for a loop.

I want the imaginary fireworks, I want the "I can't breath but I don't give a sh**" feeling, I want emotional stimulation. I want the guy to not care that I have chapped lips and a lip ring that may or may not get in the way. I want the world to stop; I want to feel like I could die after this and be ok with it. I do not want some cheap makeout session that I've been told is so fun.

I want you guys to share your first kiss stories with me, because well, I like to live vicariously. I don't want the sleezy stories I'm sure to get; I want the wonderful, "There's nothing in the world like a first kiss" stories. So please, comment away.

Trinitie
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
I've never kissed anyone I didn't love...so that means I've only kissed three people in my whole life...though I did spend 9 years between them. My first kiss...sheesh, I don't think I actually remember it all that well. I was 14, walked my then-gf to her house, I kissed her on the cheek, she kissed me back on the lips and then one thing sort of led to another, though neither one of us knew actually what we were trying to do, definitely not the best kiss of my life, but my heart was going into overdrive anyway :)
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
I've been kissed a couple of times. I've kissed a couple of times, too. But I don't recall ever really having a great moment where the both of us were kissing each other, if you know what I mean. I know that most know that I am a parent, and yes, I did care for him a great deal. At one point I think I was in love with the idea of us being in love, and for him, vice versa. But, we weren't, really. I've had other relationships but not the end-all, fireworks thing that you described.
Even though our lives are so different from each other's on the outside, I can't help but wonder if we are more alike than what it seems. Thanks, Trinitie, for helping me remember why I am the way that I am with relationships... waiting for that right, special someone. Who is waiting for me to be that person to them, too.
Offworld Trading Company
Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
I also believe that kissing should be something special and therefore don't frequently kiss girls outside of a relationship. There are the occasional exceptions (fairly rare)though when you really like someone and just go with the moment. It has to be someone you know though kissing a stranger is jsut not me.

First serious kiss would have been in my late teens with a girl I had been friends with for a few years. By that stage we had been closest friends and one night after watching a film together I asked her out. I was in a major state of panic and worry about what her reaction would be. She said yes and we shared the first of many kisses outside her house.

Paul.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Wow... thats amazing!!!! an 18 year old girl that has never has a kiss...

firstly, i want to say you are missing out... A kiss when done right, is awesome...

secondly, i want to say i respect you for this decision.

Thirdly... my first kiss was behind the art classes at school when i was 12 years old... nothing romantic at all... I do remember the Adrenalin pumping through me and that wierd feeling of such close physical interaction though... sorry i dont have the type of story you are probably after!!!

BAM!!!
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Most hookers charge extra for french kissing so I abstain.

But if you feel it is what you want to do then it is a wise decision, when you do kiss a chap you will find it most pleasurable
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
You Go Girl!
I applaude any woman who will paddle the anti-current of societal lax in regard to the use of the feminine for cheap thrills and stand for something--anything! these days.

ha-I get out of the kiss and tell cause I'm not a guy
joanofarc
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
You've got to stand for something
Or you'll fall for anything
You've got to be your own man
And not a puppet on a string

Joan, please tell!

Trinitie
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
You know, I don't think, unless you count goodnight kisses, as actually "kissing" someone, I have ever kissed a girl either. And I'm asuming you aren't counting kissing my mom when i was little. The only kisses I've ever given or taken were more of a routine, goodnight, don't let the bedbugs bite, kind of thing. So, I'm sorry I can't give you any stories either. Thanks for adding a little confidence in my choice to not kiss until I know a should. Like when I get married, then I'm game, but I don't know about any time before that.
Oh, and for any of you who have the idea that you won't get married if you never kiss a girl... I know someone who never kissed a girl until the preist said, "kiss the bride". So good luck trying to put down that kind of decision. It apearently works pretty well itself.

Capt. over and out! ™
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top

I don't remember my first kiss....it was too long ago and my brain throws out junk I don't need.  Matter of fact, I have a hard time remembering anything before I met my husband.  I remember my first kiss with him like it was yesterday (even though it was over 10 years ago).  We met right before Thanksgiving of 1993.  The night before we left for break I spent the entire night sitting in his room talking to him.  He never made any sort of move at all.  We just talked about everything and nothing. 

The reason why I even went to that college is because I was a lost soul.  Only a couple months before enrolling, my engagement to my first fiance ended (badly).  This was during the Gulf War and my (then) fiance wasn't handling being in the Navy well.  He broke it off with a line of "god is not through with me yet".  He later tried to get back together and would call me at school. 

The next day was a day that is marked in my history.  That morning (the morning after I stayed up talking to my now husband) my ex fiance called me.  I told him that it was seriously over and that I met the man that I was going to marry.  He laughed at me and told me to call him when I got dumped.  I few minutes later, my now husband came over to my room to say goodbye for the weekend.  I was on my way out the door to go to work.  He stopped me dead in my tracks and gave me a "heart and soul" kiss that totally reaffirmed that he was the man that I was going to marry.  So, I guess you can say that was my "first" kiss as it's the first one that I can remember.  By the way, he still kisses me that way after almost 8 years of marriage.

Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
KarmaGirl... I have a feeling that's what Trin was looking for:)

Trin... no stories to share, but we've had this conversation. I'm a firm believer in waiting for the right time... and I want the first time to be special, too. Perfect. Something I can tell my kids.

~Dan
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
I don't really remember my first kiss either. I do however, remember my first kiss with Dave....

..he had gone to Italy for a deployment, and I had called him right after he got back. Up until that point we had just been friends, and I thought that was pretty much how it was going to stay. We talked for over an hour on the phone that day, and I had invited him over to my house to hang out the next time he was off work.

He showed up, and I opened to door to hug him (he was wearing that leather jacket, the one that creaked and whose smell evokes such strong memories for me now...) and as we pulled away from that hug we looked at each other...and we kissed. It was then, right there and then, that I realized (that we both realized) that there was something more between us, something that was way bigger and more powerful than either of us could have imagined. We spent the rest of the evening sitting on my couch, talking, kissing, laughing, kissing, falling in love, kissing......you get the picture.

In a way, I get to renew that first kiss on a pretty regular basis. Every time we kiss for the first time after he's been deployed for a while...well, it's almost like that very first kiss all over again. It's a sense of "yeah.....this is what I've been missing all this time". God, I love him....thanks, Trinitie, you made me remember that I'm in love, and that things are great...that's gone a long way to pull me out of my crappy mood.

You're a special person, Trinitie. Save yourself for another special person...and you'll know when it's time to give up your kisses.
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top

Living in a bubble isnt good for either party of a potential love.   Lets say you really fall in love and get married to the first person you kiss.   At some point in your life it WILL weigh on you...the thought that you may have jumped too soon and that there might have been a better kisser.


If you kiss someone and it's not right, you much more appreciate when it is right.

Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
Trin, you're making me jealous and obviously it's no ones fault but my own.... I remember when I could say I had never been kissed, and I truly was proud of it, because around here most 16 year olds have been kissed. Heck, most 13 year olds have been kissed. I'd still like to be able to say that I've never been kissed, but I can't. The weird thing is, I don't know if I'd change it though if I could, though. I always made a huge deal about my first kiss. I always thought of the setting etc. lol.. pretty immature. I always wanted fireworks and everything. Like on "Princess Diaries" How superficial, I never even cared about who it was. Alright, that sounds worse than it was, obviously I wanted it to be someone I cared about and I did, and do still care about him.

He knew it had to be special, because he knew it would be my first kiss. So we took a walk on New Year's Eve )this year), and he kissed me at midnight, on this bridge, "our bridge" we call it. And guess what? I got my fireworks... haha. Right over the river someone started fireworks right after he kissed me. I don't think I'd change it, in all honesty, even though I did like saying I had never been kissed. Ya know, it's like you can't go back, but honestly, for me anyway, it wasn't that big of a deal, it's not like a "soul connection" although maybe with/for the right person it is. who knows? It's almost like the anticipation is the best part, you know, the waiting time. Well, that's my story. I always admire people who wait until the alter, but I really never wanted my first kiss to be in front of a bunch of people.

--Sarah
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
Dreamer---I never said it had to be at the alter.

Karma and Dharma---I really did like your stories. Thank you for saying I'm special. But I have a short point to make:

You both say you can't remember your first kiss. What was the point of it then? Don't you think those kisses that you do remember would have been multiplied a thousand times in passion had they been the first? Just a thought.

Jeremy---as with sex, when we enteract with more than one partner, we end up comparing, and that has nothing to do with anything. Although I'm willing to compromise, I would like all my "firsts" to be with someone who is like me---also never had a first. I don't want that thought in the back of my mind saying, "Wait, what if he thinks I'm bad at this?"

Mack---I enjoyed your story also.

Trinitie
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
I get where you're coming from Trinitie...but I agree with Jeremy. If I hadn't kissed anyone else before I wouldn't have known that what I felt when I kissed Dave was so....extraordinary....still is so extraordinary.
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
I didn't read through all of these replies but my take Trin is that if your decision is on principal alone then you're missing out. I have some friends who just have little taste for relationships and don't have the same drive for physical contact and hey, I got no beef with that. I think you can tell a lot about someone in how they kiss and to be in love with someone before such initial physical contact might be innocently romantic, but modernly unrealistic.

My first kiss was with the neighbor girl when I was 9 or so and I think my older sister and her older sister made us do it. Cute grade school romance....no regrets. It's like you won't ever drive a used car until you can afford a lamborgini....just seems silly. Sure one is better than the other, but that doesn't mean driving the used car might get you closer obtaining your goal.....sorry for the poor analogy.

PS - I H8 cars.
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top
i was really drunk... she was really drunk... we were out on the dance floor, and it just kinda happened, right then and there... My sister sure is a great kisser!
Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
haha very funny imajinit, you made me laugh - and that is a big compliment coming from the wittiest person on joeuser
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top
Interesting topic, Trinitie.

I'm with Karma and Dharma on this one--I don't have any memory of the first.

I think the more you love them at the time, the more memorable the experience is. My most memorable was in my mid-twenties, it was drizzly out, the air was crisp, it wasn't cold, but it wasn't warm. We were walking home from a concert. The road was empty and dark, it was just us. N. was actually dancing down the street trying to impress me with his innate sense of coordination and musical prowness. One thing led to another, and it just felt right. N. was the first person to break my heart--but I wouldn't change the chance to love him for anything in the world. Loving him taught me more than all the books and classes in the world.
Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
Touche MJ.

Absolute class.

JeremyG and Dharma raise valid arguments as well Trin... Forums are good for stories and advice!!!!

BAM!!!
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
Oh, the i kissed him and now he's gone scenario. I like it. Very victimish. Good touch.

Capt. over and out!
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top
thanks for all the comments, but my opinion has not changed. The car analogy was just silly.

Imajinit, lol.

Trinitie
Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top
Trinity I will kiss you in the most romantic way, I will take your dainty hand and lead you to my private sauna where I will proceed to kiss your ears before moving onto your luscious lips.
Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top
"Dreamer---I never said it had to be at the alter."
I wasn't trying to imply you had said it I didn't even think you meant that in all honesty... i was just making a point.

Peter-get a life!

--Sarah
Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top
It's very possible, you know, that the first kiss isn't worth remembering.